Long Distance relationships

OK people so here I am, at the request of a really good friend i decided to open an account on this site and do a little writing, blogging and venting, aperintly its good for the soul. Now for those either in a long distance relationship or for those thinking about getting into one, this blog may be for you. I may not be the overwhelming athority when it comes to relationships, but i have been in a couple, and yes, they have been long distance. am i in them now?? no, and you may think thats a bad thing, but its not, because with each failed attempt you learn something new, and what I've learned i would like to share with you.

First thing when it comes to this kind of relationship, there are going to be hardships, it will not be easy to say the least. miles and miles apart, not being able to see each other for months on end, its like being single only more lonely. for those lucky enough to live somewhat close to their partner the odd weekend trip can be nice, but if your relationship was like mine, where you lived 1500 miles apart, that really isnt an option, so it is best to plan carefuly, every moment you spend together counts. a couple weeks out of the year is better then nothing.

Trust!! this is big, trust is something you will need in spades in a long distance relationship. if you dont, then thing will fall apart very quickly. you spend almost all of your time apart, living your lives, and if a seed of doubt creeps into your mind about your partners faithfullness, it will take root and start to grow. it will keep growing with every moment you keep worring about what your partner is doing to the point where it gets so large that it takes up your every thought, and then the fights start, where were you? who were you with? what were you doing? i know you went out and so on. its a bad thing to happen, but unfortantly it happens to alot of long distance couples.

Comunication. when you are a long distance apart comunication is also important. you dont have to talk every day. set a side one day a week or more depending on the person to just sit down and talk about anything and everything, be it over the phone, text or im. just as long as you are talking with each other, its all good. another thing, when you get into a fight (and you will, thats what couples do :P) comunication is what will smooth things over, i was in plenty of fights over my few relationships and after a cooling down time i would talk to my partner about what we were fighting about and try to resolve it. some topics would be harder to talk about, but thats normal. talk it out and for the most part, things will turn out allright.

Ok people, i know it may not seem like much, but those are the building blocks for a good long distance relationship. you dont have to follow them to a tee, but just think about some of the stuff i said and put it to good use in your own way and who knows, something good may just come out of it :)